By Rev. Amari Magdalena
“This is the Day,” Graham Dashwood declares in The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel as he realizes that he’s through leading a life whose end game is not one he wishes to play. Do you ever feel like you have a starring role in someone else’s life? Are you aware that you are living roles of expectations that family, friends, lovers, employers and societal edicts have dictated? Have you wondered where you, your authentic self, has disappeared to?
We are living in fast moving and often precarious times. Change is upon us with increasing demands on our mental, physical and emotional natures. Many of us have had to wear a lot of hats to meet the demands of our different roles. Perhaps we’ve felt like quick change artists in a play with many cumbersome costumes. More likely a bit of us may have been lost along the way. We have mastered doing at the expense of being.
Yet some internal message we are receiving in the deep recesses of our minds, speaks to us. Its message may be soft or very loud. Basically it may be asking “where is my spirit.” Where is that essential me? Am I anywhere near fulfilling my dreams and living in concert with the real me? Will I just go on in over-drive until this little vinette I call my life is over?
When we get caught up in the doings of life, we often loose the magic that it truly represents. We are born because we chose to incarnate, to acquire this flesh and blood body. Our life script is influenced by our early caregivers and takers and a plan for spiritual growth that is perhaps beyond our human imagining. Each of us has a specific purpose in being here. Our soul wishes that we will realize our purpose and accomplish our mission. In between our birth and death, we are gifted time and experiences towards that end.
Though it may not always be apparent I believe we are actually here to enjoy this ride. Oh, maybe not every day, though we might choose that attitude. Certainly we are not incarnate to be punished or ‘do time’ for our supposed past life regressions. I feel we are here to have the full body experience in every possible way. Along the way, hopefully we are also staying in tune with our eternal spirit and fostering its growth.
What I do know to be true, this nearly three quarters of a century down life’s highway, is that each day is a gift. When we choose to be more present in the moment, we can experience gratitude for this wondrous gift; we can choose to life actively, magnificently, and dynamically. No matter the external circumstances, tugs and pulls, we can each declare, “today is the day!” We can embrace the day and surrender living the lives others dictate for us. In our declaration, we can find our authentic self who knows how we can fulfill our dreams with whatever time is afforded us.
Perhaps you are saying to yourself, sure it’s that easy, not! She doesn’t know the stresses I’m under or understand my circumstances. Who is she to say this?
What I will share with you is that I’ve been through the hell of life. I’ve been at the edge of giving up. At 47 I was so close to early exit that each day was precarious. One day in rainy, cloudy, dark Seattle the sun shown. I was out laying in the sun. The warmth on my body caused me to totally relax. I heard birds joyfully singing. In that very moment, I came to a realization that I could capture more moments like that and turn my life around. I could choose heaven on earth. That realization moved my life towards embracing each day and following my dreams.
What I wish for each of you reading this, is a moment in which you make an active choice to embrace life and declare, “This is the Day”! That you quit living your life for and through others and recognize that at the end of your life hopefully you lived your life for you. Trust me, others will appreciate that much more than you losing your special Divine Spark to please them. And, you will lead a life that you enjoy and are grateful for.
“You think this is just another day in your life. It’s not just another day. It’s the one day that’s given to you today. It’s given to you. It’s a gift. It’s the only gift that you have right now and the only appropriate response is gratefulness.” Louie Schwartzberger